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Merry Christmas!

What a busy whirlwind of a year! I remember being told as a kid that life goes faster and faster and I never believed it. Now I’m a believer!

It’s amazing to think that Nathaniel and I celebrated our 9 year anniversary in October. Being married to my best friend has been beyond wonderful. He may not be perfect, but he’s perfect for me, and I am continually amazed at how much alike and yet different we are in all the right places.

This year Nathaniel keeps running away from home, but thankfully he always comes back – he’s taken up running as a hobby and form of exercise. He bought some black Vibram shoes (known around here as “toe shoes” or “Gorilla feet”) and heads out at least two mornings a week for a run. Apparently he missed the memo that said geeks aren’t supposed to be trim and fit.

There have been big changes on the business front – this summer Nathaniel shut down his multi-person consulting company to focus in on Spreedly, and at the beginning of December he took it a step further and stopped doing all independent consulting as well. It’s all Spreedly all the time now, and with a new CEO brought on board (Nathaniel’s now happily serving as CTO) momentum is picking up fast. 2012 promises to be an exciting ride!

I (Katie) was busy most of the year making a baby. Our sixth born – Katherine Serene – was born on August 9th and I am very happy to have another baby to kiss on. I also began “seriously” homeschooling this fall with a planned schedule and all. In my minds eye I had our mornings all figured out and down on paper, only to realize that real life and paper diverge wildly. I have since adjusted our morning school time and am please with the progress that is being made by the whole brood.

Reuben (8) has really taken off in his reading. He started of with the Box Car Children and quickly progressed to the Hardy Boys, Trixy Belden, and any kids adventure book he can get his hands on; a Kindle and the Gutenberg Project have been a big help in keeping him supplied with books. He also excels in math and is amazing his siblings with his talents by counting to one hundred by tens and fives. When not reading and ‘rithmatic’ing, Reuben spends most of his time trying to figure out how things work (often by taking them apart!) and then trying to replicate them with household items or Legos. Favorite projects have been making primitive archery sets and trying out kite making. And baking, which I think mostly just reflects his love of sweets. Now if we could just get him as excited, or at least as competent, about cleaning up afterwards we’d be doing good.

Anne Marie (6) is tall and lanky and her curls continue to make me jealous. At 6 she is already growing up into quite a lady – one that boasts she can “fight” better than the boys and enjoys climbing trees. She has learned to officially read this year, and amazes herself when she sees a word and can sound it out. She hasn’t taken off like her brother yet, but I have a feeling I will be finding her curled up with a stack of books in the near future. Her housekeeping skills are also starting to grow, and she loves to help out with Katherine, the first baby she gets to hold by herself. Perhaps most exciting, Anne Marie has learned how to earn and save money this year, and she carefully saved up enough a dollar at a time to buy a guitar just for herself. I have a feeling this will be the first of many wise financial decisions on her part.

William (5) is begging to do math and has asked me to teach him to read; he doesn’t want to be left behind his older siblings when it comes to school. As our official house comedian, William is often funniest (and most philosophical) when he doesn’t mean to be: he was overheard telling another sibling, ”’Poor Poor’ means you don’t have anything in your house, but ‘Poor’ means you don’t have any children.”

Elaine (4) is our first girl who loves to play with dolls and have tea parties. She is also a thumb sucker who one hour wants to quit (because 4 year olds don’t suck their thumb!) and the next hour has found a secluded place to cosy up with her thumb and a blanket. She enjoys playing with Etan and they’re buddies on most subjects of play, especially while the older ones are working. She is looking more and more like her mama; it’s nice to know that at least one of my children decided to take after me.

Etan (2) successfully potty trained this fall. Thankfully, he was one of our easiest, since I was starting to wonder how I was going to keep up on the laundry with two in cloth diapers. He is Daddy’s little boy and they even have a “secret” hand shake which all the boys have now adopted. Etan’s latest interest is in the wooden train set, but I don’t know what he enjoys more, dumping the bins out or actually building and running trains around the track. He has been one of our earliest talkers and it’s a joy to hear his little voice jabbering about life (and parroting most things we say to him). He’s figured out how to forage for himself, and so when he gets hungry we’ll often find a trail of banana peels leading to a happy boy sitting and enjoying his snack.

Katherine (4 months) arrived one week past her due date and now that she is in my arms is well worth every ache and pain it took to get her here. She surprised us with the cutest little dimples, doubly surprising since no one on either side of our families has dimples that we know of. She is our “on” or “off” baby, usually all smiles, but if she isn’t smiling, then she is usually letting you know at the top of her lungs that she needs something. Being the sixth child, I find myself much more laid back and enjoying the infant stage, knowing that it won’t last long.

God has been very good to us this year – we’ve been healthy, well provided for, and have also found a new church home at Christ Church in nearby Cary. We can’t wait to see what the new year has in store!

Professional Changes

I just put a post up on the Terralien blog outlining a big change: I’ve shut Terralien down*. The asterisk is that I’m still doing some contracting work, but all my entrepreneurial focus is now being focused in to Spreedly. No man can serve two masters, and I’m being a whole lot more productive now that I’ve stopped trying to do the impossible.

This also means I’ll probably move my blogging back over to this blog; maybe I’ll even get a chance to move it to a modern blogging platform. The sky’s the limit now!

The Latest from Terralien

As many/most of you know, I’ve spent the past few years running Terralien, a consulting shop focused on custom software development. Just last week we launched Full Stack iPhone, a new full-service iPhone development service that bundles up design, iPhone development and web development into a complete package. I mostly mention it here to show off what I’ve been up to, but of course if you know anyone that needs an iPhone application developed, definitely point them our way!

A Few Miscellaneous Pictures

These are a bit random, but ones I wanted to share:

Can you tell who keeps sneaking the camera even though she isn’t supposed to?! (Hint – her name begins with the letter Elaine)

And…

Our Weekend

We decided to see the sea this weekend. It was different than what I expected in that there were lots of bays to stop at, but not many ocean views. Jasper Beach was our first stop:

Anne Marie's 5th birthday

Since we are away from home (meaning grandparents and aunts) we had to make sure that Anne Marie’s birthday was very special. The “birthday” things we did today included visiting Dunkin’ Donuts, having a tea party:

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2009 Christmas Letter

It seems like the theme of the Talbotts’ year was conferences – from California to Spain, and Toronto to Florida, Nathaniel attended 8 conferences and spoke at most of them, often with family tagging along. The Lord’s blessing continued to be very evident in our household as well, not the least of which was safe travel over all the miles covered!

All of the conference-going was but one symptom of the growth of both of Nathaniel’s businesses. Terralien, which does custom software design and development, continues to pick up steam, and was able to bring in a full-time project manager in the second half of ’09. With ongoing work with clients who first found Terralien as far back as 2005, and plenty of work helping new clients get their businesses off the ground, there’s plenty to manage!

Spreedly, a subscription management business that Nathaniel started with three co-founders a couple of years ago, really started to take off in 2009, and has 10 times as many businesses using it now as it did at the beginning of the year. Nathaniel often feels like he has two full-time jobs between Terralien and Spreedly, but he’s loving (almost) every minute of it, and wouldn’t trade it for anything. A lot of what he spoke about at conferences this year was entrepreneurship, either particular aspects of it or just generally encouraging folks to get motivated and start their own thing. If you ever need an entrepreneurial pep talk he’s always up for giving one!

Katie spent most of the year pregnant, but we won’t bore you with those details. Her current days are filled with taking care of a house full of energetic kids, which she enjoys a good ninety-five percent of the time. The other five percent she spends dreaming of having older children who can blow their own noses and pick out matching clothes. She also spent a lot of time this year researching homeschooling, and is becoming ever more grateful for the time and effort her mother put into her own education.

When Nathaniel went and spoke at a conference in Madrid, Spain over Thanksgiving this year, Katie and the baby got to come along. Since this was the first trip she’d made overseas, it was a definite highlight to the year. She hopes to get to repeat the experience again in the future, all except the part where she got lost for two hours in the downtown of Europe’s third largest city!

One of the biggest blessings of the year came in October as Etan Zeal Talbott was born two days after his due date. Although not the easiest Talbott baby, he has already captured our hearts with his smiles and coos of recognition and affection. At almost 3 months of age, Etan is living up to the meaning of his name – strong, firm one – as he is either crying with vigor, or smiling and joyfully wiggling with vigor. His motto in life seems to be “all or nothing.”

Elaine, now two years old, is still a bit of a baby to us all as she held that position longer than most of our other children. After 2 years, we are still mesmerized by her sweet smile, and even in the middle of the naughtiest situations she knows that a big grin will help diminish the punishment of her crime. The words most heard out of her mouth are, “Me! Me!” as she doesn’t want to be left out of any fun.

William is now three and finally getting some visible hair – poor guy was bald for quite awhile! He is talking a mile a minute these days after being the kid that just last year we couldn’t even get to try, and he has a quick, little boy sense of humor that he likes to whip out at the funniest times. One of our sources of joint amusement and annoyance this year has been William’s need to have something in his hands at ALL times; we often uncurl his fingers to find a dime, a small twig, a piece of cloth, a ball bearing, or some similarly random item wrapped up inside. We wouldn’t mind so much, but at nap time we end up removing the oddest things from his hands, his bed and under his pillow, things he has collected when he’s supposed to be sleeping!

Anne Marie is four, soon to be five, and she has matured into a beautiful little girl – inside and out. She is learning how to help more around the house and her newest accomplishment is mixing up the orange juice (from concentrate) by herself. Being such a big girl meant she needed a bigger bed, and Aunt Claire moved out in August after living with us for three years, allowing Anne Marie to move into the grown up bed and start sharing a “girl’s room” with Elaine.

Katie regularly stops by Nathaniel’s upstairs office to tell him the latest funny thing the kids said, and it’s often Anne Marie that said it. The most recent one was when Anne Marie, in response to a question, told Katie that some clothes were hanging on the chiropractor, when what she meant was that they were on the treadmill. She has her parents convinced that someone can be extremely smart and extremely blonde all at the same time!

Reuben is six now, and his big accomplishment this year was learning to read; we now get regaled with a running commentary on the road and store signs as we drive around town. Reuben has a desire to know EVERYTHING, with “why?” and “what?” ranking as his favorite words. Much like his daddy, Legos are one of his favorite things, and he’s always showing off some new creation he has constructed, usually a vehicle of some sort. Unlike his daddy, he is fascinated by real car makes and models, and can name most of those he sees on the road. Of course, the one thing his daddy did teach him about cars is that Honda’s are the best!

The best part of writing a Christmas letter is just remembering what we did ourselves in 2009 – what a whirlwind! We hope you enjoy the peek into our family, and that if you’re ever in North Carolina you’ll look us up.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from the Talbott Family!

Announcing Etan Zeal Talbott

It’s time to metaphorically set pen to paper for the fifth time and record for our newly born son why he has the name he does, and what the promise and the warning are that are bound up in it. First, though, the vital statistics:

Name: Etan Zeal Talbott
Born: October 3, 2009 at 4:15am
Length: 21.5 inches
Weight: 7 lbs., 15 oz.

Etan, your mother and I had your middle name figured out first: Zeal. One of the defining characteristics of your pregnancy was your mother suddenly putting her hand on her stomach or giving a little jump as you moved around. Now, all babies move in the womb if they’re healthy, but you moved very often and very strongly. Because of this we wanted to give you a name that reflected the passion of your earliest days, and Zeal seemed to fit it perfectly.

“My zeal has consumed me,
  Because my enemies have forgotten Your words.”—Psalm 119:139

Now, both your mother and I thought you were going to be a girl, so we hadn’t picked out a boy first name when you were born. I laughed out loud when you came out (I was right there!) and I saw that you were most definitely not a girl, and from now on I can tell you that we’ll always have both a boy and a girl name selected! In the two days after you were born, your mother and I spent a lot of time with the baby name books, and I came across the name Etan, a variant of Ethan, and loved both the name and the meaning – “strong, firm one”.

When the pieces are put together, the meaning of your name is “firm, strong passion”. Lest you think that it’s all about brute strength, know that in Scripture Ethan the Ezrahite was renowned not for his physical prowess but for his wisdom, said to be second only to Solomon. So I challenge you as you learn to speak and articulate and someday read these words to be a man of strong, passionate ideas; a man who is known for force of reason and not simply for force.

The warning in your names is in the two of them apart. Strength without passion lumbers along and is not touched, but also does not touch the world. Barak was such a man – strong and mighty, but with so little drive that he refused the privilege of leading the Israelites into battle. On the other hand, passion without strong resolve is flighty and prone to be controlled by the lust of the moment. The so-called “strongest man”, Samson, was an example of untempered passion – so much drive and potential, all wasted because he couldn’t rein in his lusts.

The promise of your name is in the two parts together: if you will live a passionate life while tempering that passion with strength and endurance, you will be an unstoppable force in whatever you put your hand to. The world needs more strong, passionate men, and I challenge you to grow into your name and to be such a man. Emulate David – zealous and passionate for God, and yet strong and articulate in his life and worship. Of course there’s another warning in David: beware wandering on your rooftop when you should be out in the battle.

The fun thing about writing this is that your eldest brother is almost old enough to read his name post for the first time, and it makes me all the more expectant of you reading yours in a few years. I love you, my little Etan Zeal, and I know that by God’s grace you will grow into your name in ways that I can’t even guess at now.

“The LORD bless you and keep you;
  The LORD make His face shine upon you,
   And be gracious to you;
  The LORD lift up His countenance upon you,
   And give you peace.”—Numbers 6:24

P.S. Photography by the amazing Joy of Joy Lyn Photography. She also did our wedding, and we highly recommend her for any fine photography you want to have done!

Owning the Means of Production

Wow, what a great conference FutureRuby was! A lovingly curated talk schedule, a carefully planned set of parties, and a room full of smart Ruby folks made for one of the best conferences I’ve been to. If the “spiritual successor” to FutureRuby shows up next year (as FutureRuby was the spiritual successor to RubyFringe), you will not want to miss it.

I had the privilege of opening up the conference this year, and given the theme of the conference I used it as an opportunity to get philosophical and to encourage everyone to take personal responsibility for their vocation. It’s been awhile since I wrote out a talk, but I decided to do so again for this and thus I present you with the full text, almost verbatim as it was given:

How Capitalism Saves Ruby From Corporatism

Give it a read and let me know what you think. And if you read it and it inspires you to go out and take action, I’d love to know that, too! I’m hopeful that a hundred flowers might bloom from this one little seed.

Update: video of the talk is now up on InfoQ with the caveat that the content is 99% the same as the essay.

The Lean Startup Primer

I’ve decided to jump head-first into offering some training via Terralien with the Lean Startup Primer. For a little more background, check out the post on the Terralien blog.

Nathaniel Gets Interviewed

If you like tech talk, you might enjoy the interview I recently did in the lead-up to the RubyRX conference. You can watch it over on the Terralien blog.

Nathaniel at RubyRX

Are you a Rubyist? Then hop on over to the Terralien blog and find out why you should be at RubyRX.

2008 at the Talbott's

2008 in the Talbott household managed to be busy without being too hectic, noisy without being overpowering. There was much maturing on all of our parts as we’re settling in to the routine of a six-person household, and the children are starting to get to the point of helping to clean up messes as well as make them. The highlight of our year was our summer trip to the North Carolina mountains. It was four wonderful weeks of a little work, lots of play, and just generally enjoying each other as a family. You can read all about it in the write-up Katie did a few months ago.

One of the amazing things this year has been watching the kids grow and learn. As their personalities develop and their minds start to understand the world, it’s great to get their unique perspectives on everyday things. Reuben (5) is the leader of our small pack. He’s the family’s living day-timer, keeping us informed on when it’s trash day, who’s turn it is to pray at the noon meal, and if Katie’s forgotten something he considers important. He’s begun doing some relaxed schooling this year, memorizing some Scripture and hymns, learning letter sounds and simple mathematics, and various other tidbits that he likes to tell us at the weirdest times. His greatest discoveries are not while bent over a book, though: after a nap one day he told Katie, “Circles are ‘o’s. I figured it out while I was restin’ today.”

He’s also been picking up a lot of theology this year, and loves to share it with his siblings, often while in the car. A recent car conversation went something like this: “Did you know that baby Jesus came and grew up and then was crucified? But that’s okay because he was raised from the dead three days later and he is going to come back. I don’t know when though. I think it’s going to be a long time…”

Anne Marie (almost 4) is becoming quite the little mama to her younger siblings, hugging on them and telling us exactly what she thinks they need. She’s also started a bit of schooling alongside Reuben, and is learning to write her letters. She’s decided that “easy” letters like “T” are fun to write, but a “hard” one like “M” is enough to bring her to tears.

When Anne Marie’s not learning she’s often teaching us some new vocabulary: “I want to do diarrhea” was her recent way of telling Katie that she wanted to read a book about ballerina’s. Katie also heard her exclaim, “There’s a thing to blow your hair off!” upon seeing a hair dryer, and “Can we eat some pine cones?” when asking if we could have ice cream cones.

William (2) has so far been our quiet, content child. He discovered a love for Legos this year, and will often sit for an hour or more just putting them together and pushing them around on the floor. He’s still very difficult to understand when he tries to talk, but he’s obviously more interested in learning to talk in the last few months, and has been showing rapid improvement. And even if he has trouble getting out clear words, he can certainly communicate when he wants to – he’s got a lot of tenacity when it comes to being understood.

Elaine (1) is still “baby” to us in some ways, with a sweet personality and a precocious ability to apply it towards charming those around her. In a few years Nathaniel may have to buy a shotgun and use it to keep the boys away, and in the meantime he’s trying his best to not get too wrapped around her pinkie. Her communication abilities are not far behind William’s, and she picks up new “tricks” at an amazing rate. It’s probably a survival instinct: she figures she has to be quick or she’ll get run over!

Katie’s been learning a lot this year about managing a household with six people, and it’s been amazing to see the patterns settle down to a comfortable cadence. There’s of course always laundry to do, but in between loads she manages to get lots of deals off of Craigslist, participate in a local fresh produce co-op, make our home ever more appealing with her decorating skills, and spend lots of quality time with Nathaniel and the kids. She also cranked up her graphic design skills this winter and put together a calendar for the grandparents using an advanced photo editor called “The Gimp”. It was a lot of work, but the results were rewarding.

Nathaniel spent the year continuing to grow Terralien, his web application development consultancy, taking the lessons learned in 2006 & 2007 and applying them to get a more streamlined process and develop long-term happy clients. His side business Spreedly also hit some important milestones, and looks to grow even more next year. He spoke at two programming conferences this year (RubyConf and RailsConf), and also got the chance to preach a few times at church. And, of course, there was much time spent doing daddy things, like tickling kids and chasing them around the house – both of which he excels at!

It’s hard to smoosh a full year into one letter, but we’ve done our best! As always, you can reach us anytime at katie@talbott.ws and nathaniel@talbott.ws, and follow our latest happenings (when we remember to post them) right here at http://blog.talbott.ws/. Now, ya’ll have a fantastic 2009, m’kay?

Keynoting at acts_as_conference!

I feel honored to have been invited to keynote at acts_as_conference in sunny Orlando, Florida early next year. I’ll be there February 6-7 not just giving a talk but also enjoying the vibe of what is sure to be a fantastic regional conference. As a big proponent of personal responsibility at all levels I love the conference’s focus this year on making ourselves ever more relevant by improving our skills and taking charge of our own paths as practitioners. Bad economy or not, it’s always a good time to stay relevant.

I hope to see you there – don’t miss out on what’s sure to be an amazing conference!

Codename MC

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